Food For Thought

Dear Gala Guru,

My cousin’s wedding is turning into quite the scene, with kids under 12 reluctantly allowed but under strict conditions—one child per adult, max supervision, and absolutely no outside food, because her catering “aesthetic” must remain undisturbed.
Here’s the kid’s menu: frozen mini pizzas, sugary drink pouches, crunchy cheese-flavored puffs, and generic soda, for maximum cheapness, I’m guessing. My elementary schooler has health issues that make junk food a disaster waiting to happen, so we typically steer clear. I asked if he could eat from the adult menu instead, but she refused, citing “special treatment” and potential drama from other families. I then offered to pack some healthier snacks for him, but when I asked, Bridezilla lost it, saying it would “ruin the vibe” and make other parents feel judged.

To top it off, the “dessert” she’s planned for the kids is a Build-Your-Own S’mores bar with frosted toaster pastries, marshmallow fluff, and chocolate hazelnut spread. I can practically hear my son’s stomach protesting. My husband says to let it go and let our son deal, but I don’t think it’s fair to make him survive on neon snacks and sugar bombs for several hours.
Am I wrong for wanting to sneak in a few carrot sticks and fruit, or is my cousin taking this way too far?

Determined Diet Defender

Dear Determined,

No, you are not wrong. The only things we truly have control over are our decisions and actions. Right or wrong, like it or not, the bride has made her plans for the event.

Try to see this as a teaching moment for your son. I bet he won’t be the only child with dietary restrictions at the party.

You have control over what you offer your son to eat, and you’re right to consider bringing a few carrot sticks and fruit. If I were in your position, I’d pack a small baggie of carrot sticks, raisins, or other healthy snacks in my “mom” bag and talk with your son beforehand about mindful eating and what foods work best for him.

You can’t control the “vibe” or others’ opinions. That said, you don’t need to announce your approach either. This can all be handled discreetly.

Feed him well before heading to the wedding and discuss the importance of mindful eating habits. Remember, the goal isn’t to change someone else’s plans; it’s to take care of your family’s needs.

Consider this event an opportunity to teach your son about taking responsibility for his well-being while respecting others’ events.

Enjoy the wedding!

Remember, there is always a reason to celebrate!

The Gala Guru

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